Sympathy for the "devil"

Lewis B. Smedes said, " To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you

You may act like you don't deserve it but deep down you expect to be forgiven because at some point you forgave someone for the the bruises this someone inflicted on your not so innocent self.

The truth is: Everyone deserves forgiveness. You cant parade around with a holier than thou complex deciding who deserves your forgiveness. Your forgiveness is not worth anything if it not true. Its nothing but words recited by a toddler seeking affection from an irresponsible father. Hear me this: You don't get to decide who you forgive because you'd be telling God that His salvation is worth nothing.

Pain is not cheap. It is a wrecking ball that wreaks intense havoc. Think about the first time someone betrayed you, or your first heartbreak. Two words: Hard, cold, and a ton of hurt. Now you share it proud as if it was your first serious jail time. If I had to guess, you were violated many times by cruel thoughts, and painful memories. The memory of pain is why we can't forgive. And I agree with you. Why should you forgive them? "They were selfish, and even though they knew it would hurt you, they did it anyway. Why should I forgive them?" You have given your anger a shoulder rub and you've comforted your pain with the promise of a bright future. What you do not realize is that you are you are killing yourself... slowly. That poison of a pain will feast on itself and consume you. You will become bitter for the rest of your life about something that will eventually become irrelevant, and you would have traded many happy moments for a lifetime of broken relationships and terrible decisions. Let it go. Have some sympathy for the "devil" that caused you the pain. It is your cure

If you truly love someone like you claim, forgive them. Let the pain go.

Second chances are a gift. It’s a grace card that goes around, and keeps giving to the worst of us. We all need second chances, and the second one after that second chance. It is just a way of saying that I am as human as it gets. Second chances always come along; to remind us that there is no shame in falling because we are all trying to stand on two feet. Our decisions are influenced by multiple factors; some of which don't come into play until we are the crossroads of decision making. Actions are not all guided by experiences or careful thought. Some are impulsive, influenced by selfish desires and urgent needs; and and sometimes those actions become wrecking balls that...........(Well, you catch my drift). I learned the hard way to be grateful for pain and the people who caused them because sometimes it takes the worst pain to bring about the best change. Once you forgive someone, you feel like you lost something. Your pride. You lose your crushed pride, and you begin a long journey to living with pain as it slowly leaves your body.

Let it go.

If you have ever wonder whether you are forgiven or not here is something for you. “You can never know if a person forgives you when you wrong them. Therefore it is existentially important to you. It is a question you are intensely concerned with. Neither can you know whether a person loves you. It’s something you just have to believe or hope. But these things are more important to you than the fact that the sum of the angles in a triangle is 180 degrees. You don’t think about the law of cause and effect or about modes of perception when you are in the middle of your first kiss.”